14 October 2014

Intinsic and Extrinsic Rewards

So, at the hospital I teach at, there is a supply closet where my childbirth teaching materials are stored.  The closet is shared by multiple groups of who knows who and on a little bookshelf there are a bazillion copies of a pretty little blue book called "If Disney Ran Your Hospital."

One day when I had set up the class and was ready but no one had shown up yet, I grabbed a copy of that interestingly titled book and began to read.  I found it absolutely FASCINATING.  The author was a hospital administrator who had also spent time working at Disney parks.  And as you might expect from this book, he compared how things were run.

I loved to arrive early for work and set up class and then have a few minutes to read.  If I was lucky, I could read half a chapter before anyone showed up.  I loved seeing how hospitals were run and also how Disney parks are run and looking at the differences.  I loved thinking about hospitals in general and also maternity care specifically.

But also, I am now the office manager at a law office.  How would Disney run our firm?  I loved trying to take these principles and apply it to our own business.  Every day after work I would come home and discuss with my husband the principles I had learned.  It kept my brain invigorated for months.

I finally finished that book a few weeks ago.  And that last chapter was a doozy.  It was all about internal and external rewards.  It was such an eye opener!  It really helped me look at the entire world differently and assess what made me tick.  But not just me. I was applying it to hospitals and maternity care and law firms and schools and my very own family.  I wish that I had a copy of the book so I could quote it or even just really remember everything I read.

But all I can say is that even without being able to verbalize in any way what I learned from that chapter, it has affected me deeply.  And I think about it all the time.

I just don't have the energy to do more.  But the main theme was that people who are motivated internally do a better job at things than people who are only doing it to earn a reward.  So it makes me think of things like salary bonuses and getting paid for chores.

Ugh.  I don't have the brain for writing tonight.  It's fatiguining me.  So I guess this post is more some type of notes to review for myself than for anyone else to gain anything.

C'est La vie.

12 October 2014

Dissensions and Hearing

For the past several years one of the things that has really bothered me is seeing modern day dissensions from the church.  I feel as if this  movement is picking up speed and force.  When I first joined the church about 25 years ago, I felt as if the community of saints was one cohesive whole.  But I feel like now there are these divisive groups, even among the believers.  And that among those who consider themselves to be believers, there are those who deny the power of the priesthood and of revelation, who disapprove of the way Christ has set up His church and who take every opportunity to oppose the counsel and commandments from the prophet and apostles.  There is much contention within the church.

I've wondered if it has always been like this, but I have just been unaware?  Or if it really is picking up speed lately?  I feel like it is definitely gaining traction as time goes by.  The internet does a lot to feed the fire.  If you are unhappy or have a question or a doubt, it's very easy to get sucked into blog-reading of those who are happy to show you exactly how and why the Church that you once loved is wrong.  And instead of talking to a bishop and faithfully reading scriptures to find the answers to difficult questions and private agonies, we read the philosophies of men and feel "enlightened" because there are so many other people dealing with the same issues.

And unfortunately, I have seen time and time again where this pattern ends in people dissenting away from God's church.

So today as I was reading in the first few chapters of Helaman I thought, "These chapters are exactly what I am seeing in my day."  The Nephite dissenters leaving the church, leaving their lands and defecting over to the Lamanites and trying to stir up their hearts to anger.  They don't just leave the church and go live their life in peace somewhere else.  But it became their goal and their mission to destroy the church, to destroy the people and lands they came from, to overpower them.  And the people who leave the church today rarely just say "To each his own."  But they start forums and groups and websites and gather people to their cause.  It's the same old same old.

And when the Lamanites and former Nephites attack the Nephites, the Nephites are decimated and their lands taken.  Because even those who had not dissented had not remained faithful enough.  Because even though who professed to belong to the church of God were wicked and proud, the scriptures say.  They were rich, they oppresse the poor.  They mocked sacred things, denied the spirit of prophecy, murdered, plundered, lied, stole, and committed adultery.  And then, interestingly, the last on that list was actually dissenting away.  It reminded me of Alma 39:11 where Alma is chastising Corianton for his behavior while on his mission.  "Behold, O my son, how great iniquity ye brought upon the Zoramites; for when they saw your conduct they would not believe my words."  And I was thinking that maybe that's why there is so much dissension today.  People looking around themselves and seeing the behavior of those of us who profess to be believers, but our fruits aren't that great.  And then people who are struggling in the faith see that and stop believing.

So I was in that frame of mind when I was reading how Lehi and Nephi were thrown into prison as they were preaching to the Lamanites and dissenting Nephites.    At first, they meet great success in the cities of Mulek and Gid.  Theypreach with great power and confound the dissenters and they come forth, confess their sins and are baptized and immediately returned to the Nephites to try to repair the damage they had done.  So this great success was among the Nephites.  Then they go to the Lamanites where they also have great success.  8000 baptisms among the Lamanites!

But then another army of the Lamanites takes them and casts them into prison.  They are kept in the prison without eating for several days and then are about to be delivered up to be executed.  And that's when they are miraculously saved.  A pillar of heavenly light encircles them.  And when they realize that they are not consumed by the fire, their hearts take courage.  I LOVE that phrase "their hearts did take courage."  Because it shows me that they were discouraged before.  Cast in prison, no food, about to die.  It just shows me that they were human, too.  Like me.  I get discouraged from time to time too.  I'm guessing they were prepared to die and maybe they were thinking of Abinadi (I was).  But then this miracle happens and their hearts take courage.  And in that moment of respite, the first thing they do is to testify.

And here is something really interesting.  While Nephi and Lehi are surrounded by this pillar of light, everyone else is surrounded by an awful cloud of darkness and they are afraid.  A still, small voice from heaven that pierces their heart tells them to repent.  And the earth shakes and the prison walls tremble and the voice repeats the message.  And the third time, the voice said marvelous things that cannot be uttered by man.  Wow.

But then you kind of have a D'oh moment!  Because the Lamanites turn to one Nephite dissenter, Aminadab, and ask, "What do all these things mean and who is it with whom these men to converse?"  So, did they miss everything?  Did they not understand the voice telling them to repent three times and saying such marvelous things they could not be recorded?  ACK!  How frustrating!  They don't really have any clue what is going on. So Aminadab tells them they ned to repent and pray to the voice with faith in Christ to have this cloud of darkness removed.  And they do.  And it is.

So why is that?  They did not believe the words of the prophets.  They did not even understand the words from Heaven that said the same things THREE TIMES.  But finally when Aminadab tells them, they get it.  And what's more interesting is that as they pray, the darkness is removed and the Holy Ghost enters their hearts and they are filled with fire.  The voice speaks again.  And THIS TIME, they look up to see where the voice is coming from.

I wonder if that's actually the first time they heard the voice.  It's the first time they respond to what the voice is saying in any way.  And if that's true, what was the PURPOSE of the voice saying all those things in the first place?  Nephi and Lehi are caught up in a pillar of light conversing with angels.  So it wasn't meant for them.  They were busy!  The Lamanites clearly didn't hear it.  But Aminadab is able to translate what the voice is saying to the Lamanites.  So he must have heard and understood it.  Could it be that that everything the Voice was saying was solely for Aminadab's benefit?  And why could he only understand?  The one thing I know that is different from him and the rest of the Lamanites is that he was a dissenter.  Which means he had once had the truth.  He had been baptized and received the gift of the Holy Ghost.  So when a spiritual event happened, he had the gift that allowed him to understand.  The Lamanites didn't understand until AFTER the Holy Ghost filled them.

There are two things that I want to study more from this account.  For one thing, I wish I knew my Book of Mormon history better.  Because it's talking about the people in certain lands and how differently they reacted to the preaching of the gospel.  In the land of Bountiful in the cities of Gid and Mulek, and in the land southward all the way to Zarahemla among the Lamanites, Lehi and Nephi have great success.  But it's in the Land of Nephi where the Lamanites are so hardened.  And I just wish I could remember the history of those places to understand why that is or what contributing factors might influence the people's different reactions.

Second, there's a little random phrase that is sticking out to me in Helaman 5:27.  "And behold, they that were in the prison were Lamanites and Nephite dissenters."  And it seems like that is really important.  But I don't know how.  I mean, it's a Lamanite prison, so you would expect Lamanites to be there.  And we know that Aminadab was a Nephite dissenter so why bother to mention that Nephite dissenters are in the prison?  It seems like we already have this information.  But it also seems like this information is specifically given to us for a reason in the text.  So why?  I don't know.

07 October 2014

All in Good Fun (?)

Tonight the Hubba was at the office working late.  I had a wretched evening of emergencies, conflicting activities and then wretched homework--  3-on-1 style because I was the only one home who was over the age of 12.  I was totally stressed.

By the time it was time for scriptures and prayer I was done.  And I looked around at my living room and ...ugh...shoes, socks, backpacks, old lunches, trash, trash and more trash.  EVERYWHERE.  So I had everyone blitz that room for the sake of my sanity.

After we prayed, I sent littlies to bed and sat there on the couch regalling Wiyah with tales of my stressdom and how completely overwhelmed I was by absolutely everything.  Once I had vented to her, I sat down with no one making demands on me for the first time all day.  And I opened facebook.

For fun, I posted a status for my friends to vote whether I should go to sleep or stay up late cleaning the kitchen.  I planned to to tally the votes in 5 minutes and do whichever activity had the majority.    In the first few minutes, a couple friends told me to go to sleep.  When I mentioned to Wiyah what I was doing, she suggested sleep as well.  Like it was a no-brainer.

I suddenly found myself very angry.  Who were all these people telling me to go sleep?!?!  Was NO ONE going to tell me to clean my kitchen?  Is that all facebook friends are good for--lulling you away into a life of laziness?  Honestly, sleep always win with me.  Half the time I'm practically falling asleep standing up at 8pm.  It's not like I'm the type of person who always stays up late obsessively cleaning her already tidy home.  No, I'm the type of slovenly housekeeper who falls into sleep at the blink of an eye (sometimes literally) and wakes up to an already trashed house from the previous lifetime worth of decisions to sleep rather than work.  I can't have the luxury of sleep now.  And that's what it is these days.  I kind of wish I could take a drug that would let me stay up all night so I could get stuff done and not feel tired.  And then I'm like, "Oh wait....  No, that exists and it's very bad."


Needless to say, I was sufficiently riled up that I spent the last hour+ cleaning my kitchen.

The Hubba is still at work.  Without a car.  Because the crazy evening activities required him to be dropped off.  And now both vehicles are here and all the drivers are in bed.  So my plan is that while he stays up late working, I'll stay up late working (and blogging, obviously), too.  And then at least I can give him a ride home and he won't have to walk home in the middle of the night.

I'll probably also listen to this stupid 11 hour audiobook that I've been trying to finish for a few months now that if I could check it out from the library I could have finished in one day.  To everything there is a purpose, I guess. I still have about three and a half hours left on it.  That's probably how long it would take to really get my kitchen looking good.

Oh yeah.  P.S.  I totally and completely forgot to make dinner tonight.  The activity I was at with the little kids had refreshments of donuts and apple juice.  They each had two donuts and a glass of juice.  So they weren't asking for food seeing as how they had just filled themselves on a well balanced diet of corn syrup and refined white flour.  And the big kids must have had snacks at their activities, too, because only one kid came home asking for food.  I told him to get whatever.  I don't even know what he finally ingested.

30 September 2014

I have a love/hate relationship with myself

This morning it was clearly evident.


1.  Even though I didn't go to bed until almost 2am, I still got up with my alarm at 5am.
2.  The night before I was in despair about what I was going to make for lunches.  But somehow I figured out another lunch.  And it wasn't even a paltry offering.  It will be filling.
3.  Woke up the four little kids with a hymn and a back rub, like I always do.
4.  Didn't lose my temper or yell.  Stayed calm and mostly patient.
5.  Got everybody that I was responsible for on time.  They were all happy and singing in the car by the time we left.


1.  Undisclosed person or persons frequently wear socks again and again because who knows where the matching socks are.  It's easier to keep up with the ones you last had on your feet.  One child couldn't find their old socks and actually couldn't find any clean socks either.  Tears on their part and frustration on both our parts.  I wasted ten minutes of precious morning time trying to track down socks.  There's no reason this should take longer than 20 seconds to pull open a drawer and grab a pair of socks.
2.  Can't keep up with the dishes either.  So every morning, like this morning, required me to personally handwash enough dishes for breakfast.
3.  Couldn't find a brush either.  Another 5-7 minutes lost as I scoured the house for one of the five or six brushes we own that apparently aren't where they belong and maybe never are.
4.  Got very silently frustrated when Pinkleberry somehow managed to spill out dry oatmeal in a neat pile at her feet.  Also, someone left the broom outside in the rain so we have to wait for the broom to dry before we can clean it up.  The only reason I didn't lose my temper (see number 4 above) was because Pinkleberry was possibly having a worse morning than I was and her poor little face was splotchy and her lip trembling trying not to cry.
5.  The fact that my house feels like an obstacle course and walking from one room to the next might cause you to break a leg for all the chaos we live in.  Every time I think it's not possible for things to be worse I'm disgusted to find that there are new depths I can sink to and even though I thought I was doing nothing before, I clearly HAD been doing something because it's worse now.

29 September 2014

I have a sunflower seed problem

There's just something about sunflower seeds that my mouth loves.  And I'm just completely out of control.  First of all, I'm talking about the actual nut inside, not the shell.  The shell totally gets in the way and ruins my pleasure.  I eat the shelled kind of sunflower seeds.

And I eat them one at a time.

I put one little seed in my mouth and while it's in there I first remove and chew that thin little membrane covering it.  Then using my front teeth, I mash the little nut into oblivion.  It'll be like sunflower paste.  When it's nice and smoothe, then I can swallow.  And move onto the next seed.

It keeps my mouth busy all day long just eating one serving of sunflower seeds.  Once I get started it's very difficult to stop.  Right now I have a huge bag of sunflower seeds labeled just for me at home and one in my office.  So that I never have to be seedless.


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